Divorce is more than a separation between two people. It can affect many other relationships in your life as well. Hopefully, you have close friends and family you can rely on during this time. But in many cases, divorce severs bonds with mutual friends you had with your ex-spouse or causes some to feel like they have to choose between you and your ex. Even worse, you may discover that people you thought were your friends now avoid you because they are uncomfortable or unable to offer support.
Find an activity friend. Shared interests bring people together. So find someone that enjoys the same activities as you and get some dates on the calendar. This activity could be regular visits to the gym with a workout friend, weekend walks, playing golf, attending concerts, or any other activity that makes you feel good. Even if you haven’t done them for a while, now is a great time to back into hobbies you once pursued.
Volunteer your time. Supporting a cause you believe in can lift your spirits and connect you with like-minded people. Plus, forming friendships with people who share your passion for doing good can lead to long-term, fulfilling relationships.
Reconnect with old friends. We all occasionally lose touch with people during our lives, even those we care about deeply. It’s even possible you stopped seeing certain people because they didn’t get along with your ex or because you have become less social due to the difficulties in your marriage. But it’s never too late to rekindle old friendships, and now is an ideal time to try. Chances are good; you’ll not only pick up where you left off but establish even deeper bonds with them in the future.
Be more social. Though this can be difficult at first, forcing yourself to accept invitations and put yourself in a position to meet new people can be healthy and perhaps liberating. While avoiding dating for a while is likely best, there’s no reason not to open yourself up to new friendships.